I have said it out loud a lot lately about going to a bar in say Orange County and then a bar in New York City. The difference to me is the way that our days go in the different areas. To live in NYC feels to me like it is a privilege, because it is damn expensive. You are either a college student, aspiring to be something, or have a great job allowing you to be there. Either way you have a huge personal drive and ambition, or the city eats you up and you don’t always land on your feet when it spits you out. Doesn’t mean the other types of people don’t exist but what I am getting at is the idea that if you walk around you end up being inspired by those around you. You have engaging conversations, you have less bullshit layers to pull apart, and things seem a little more in your face. I suppose that could be because your day is so intense you go out to be yourself and enjoy, not try to make up a story that doesn’t exist in a mediocre day. Instead of going to wind up you go to wind down. And from those random meetings in the loneliest city on the earth you bring away a wealth of brain candy.
This is something I wish to find out here in California, places where the people are into going out to be themselves, not living a life they feel makes them a rockstar. A life that beer and crappy pretzels is OK because you know the people around you are important enough to deal with it.
The experience out here is different probably without even having to type it just saying the opposite of the above.
I suppose those people are the kinds that I want to be able to sit around with drinking wine and talking our days away. This has always been something I value very much. The idea of having people around me that understand the importance of sitting and doing nothing but talking. The importance while you are waiting for that next class to begin in college while you all sit in the green room lounging on couches all doing your own thing and preparing for your own day and wrapped up in your own thoughts, you have small talk that turns into epic proportioned debates or intellect. The kinds of conversations you can go away from and come back and jump back into. Being able to just be you, and not worrying about it past that conversation. Viewing these moments as moments and nothing else, because each person is diverse enough that one conversation does not define them.
Just a thought.