“’I love you’: One of the most overused phrases in our culture. Love is an action. We have to be willing to show it, not just say it.”
Whether you are curious, in a relationship and want more, in a relationship and want out, or just not sure what love is, perhaps reading the stream of consciousness of someone else who has put a lot of thought into the idea of relationships and romance will be an inspiration for your own life. I have been told by many that these particular pieces have helped them to
A. Get out of bad relationships.
B. Help to value their own ideals of love more.
C. Not feel so alone.
D. Know there is someone else out there that thinks it too.
E. Not negatively compromise on who they are in order to maintain love.
So if any of that applies to you or you just want some insight into my mind, here is a massive link drop!
Most of it is about relationships and most of it is just snippets of a moment. So try to not judge on the fact that they are long or written in depth as a “THIS IS” or “HAS TO BE”. I love debate, I love conversation, and I love writing because you can talk about it, change thoughts, mold different ideas, and re-arrange puzzles!
I often say at the end of my writing:
So those are my thoughts. Obviously I have a million more and I wonder if I express everything properly the first time, but that is OK I think, because there is time to re-address things and to talk about it, instead of it being chiseled into stone on, THIS IS HOW IT IS. Consider this my journal entry to myself with intent of someone reading it.”The cookie crumbs for my depreciating mind. I spent a long time in Switzerland as a child and I found their way of “getting to know” one another refreshing. A lot up front. Not much of a wall if any. And a calm sense of “well if it doesn’t work, we will move on without wasting time pretending, guarding, or being afraid of failure.” So hopefully you don’t think I am throwing too much at you at once here with this, but then again I would share it if I did think so(but I guess I like disclaimers). But like I say and say again, I know nothing of you, nor am I the puppy attached to your hip, I am only an impatient boy, yelling, Mom.. mommy. momma.. Mom! Just to get the residual approval of a “Hello”. I am in no rush to love, I am however in a fast sprint to finding out how to give it, without feeling cheated. I want there to be an inquisition for knowledge. It will become clear eventually. Today, tomorrow, a year. I don’t care really as long as I don’t waste each day in a falsity of who I am today. So please forgive me for breaking the three text limit rule, please forgive me for not having my shit 100% together, forgive me for having multiple personality disorder on any given day at the moment. Eventually I will know the answer to the rubix cube in my brain, I will get the colors lined up. It will look like a Jackson Pollock. That is where I will give love. Not today, not tomorrow, but in time. Time filled with that search for a soul, mine, yours, those around, and the ones past.
To me it is less about OMG YOU MUST read all this to know me, this is me just wanting to share a few snippets of my life. Because trust me, without these I have a ton to talk about still. Would love to have conversations about anything that sparks your mind as well. So don’t think of this as some homework assignment to be handed in, think of it as an open conversation in a text format.
Redundancy department of redundancy at your service!
Before reading anything:
- “This is how we write now”
- You make me too comfortable…
- “Online dating is simple, you are the one making it complicated.”
- “Relationships Post Swipe”
- “I’m not you bodyguard, I am your boyfriend.”
- “Ready to Purge, the modern form of love.”
- “Please stop caring!”
- “We need to start getting hurt again.”
- My Space, Your Comfort…
- I’ll tell you when it suits me…
- Mindful Explanations
- Let’s play dating Telephone, without the phone.
- Anxiety and Dating
- “Being Yourself is “OK”Cupid”
- “Say something, I’m giving up on you.” Most recent mixture of many of my pieces trying to get through to someone I was seeing, but it ended up not working:
- “Communicate with me dammit”
- “At the core we are not a fairy tale, so skip to the end already!”
- “Relationships measured by farting 😛”
- “Oh and One more Thing… The catch to online dating.”
- “OOMT: Cats and 18 Minute Girl”
- “Sex and Txts an OOMT”
- Eyes to Brain… FUCK! My OkCupid Date.
When I moved to California, these I wrote 7 years ago.
There are days where I am alone
From when I went to Paris:
This is random rambling
- Another life decision that cause analysis of everything in my current life.
- The feeling of butterflies in your stomach
I have been told my dating profile would be a good introduction to all of these writings if I were to write a book. So here ya go: